Sexual Orientation

Why are some people heterosexual and some people homosexual?  Is the reason genetic?  Is it learned?  Is there some other reason?  Do people have a choice about their sexual orientation? 

The reason some people are heterosexual and other people are homosexual is very similar to the reason some people have brown hair and other people have blonde hair.  Your genetic codes help determine your sexual orientation.  And in the same way that there is a spectrum of blondness to brownness in your hair color, there is a spectrum of sexual expression embedded in your genetic code.   Your sexual identities are your choice.  Most people have a genetic code that enables them to feel sexually attracted to different kinds of people.  All of you, whether you identify as gay, straight or something else, are socialized.  All of you are given different social pressures, social belief systems, social values and social experiences that lead you to identify yourselves somewhere on the spectrum of sexual expression. 

Some of you are born with a very strong genetic code leaning toward heterosexuality; some of you are born with a very strong genetic code leaning toward homosexuality.  Many more of you are born with a potential for both.  Looking at the identities of heterosexual or homosexual through the Akashic Records, these identities appear not as a spectrum, not as a duality where you are either one or the other; these identities appear as part of a circle.  People fall at certain points on the circle depending on both their genetic code and on the social situations or their social programming – both help determine their process of identity.  The short answer is your sexual orientation has genetic roots.  All of you have a choice about how you express your genetic code. 

The choice for all of you is this, do you choose to hide a part of yourselves and live without integrity?  Or, do you choose to embrace all of yourself with as much integrity as possible?  It might be easy to imagine that only gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and transsexual people must grapple with this choice, because they experience the most pressure to hide themselves – but the question must also be addressed by people who identify as heterosexuals.  In fact, heterosexuals are faced with a particular challenge, for your sexual expressions are less politicized and less visible.  It can be too easy to ignore your need to establish your unique sexual identity, and so lose the opportunity to come into a deeper integrity with yourselves.  All people must come to terms with their own true selves including all of their sexual expressions, frustrations, yearnings, confusions, and power.  All people must decide whether to hide themselves or share themselves. 

You see this need being played out often when people feel shame or hide their sexual yearnings or their fantasies.  When natural sexual expressions are hidden and when people feel shame, you find that you begin to squeeze your expressions into more twisted forms that involve hurting or taking advantage of one another.  This occurs regardless of sexual orientation.  It occurs across the board and across the globe.  It is the next frontier for healing in the human race. 

All of you, regardless of your sexual orientation and your sexual identity, must come to terms with your own sexuality and you must find a way to be in alignment with yourselves.  Therefore, the best thing you can do for one another is to be kind and to honor the fact that all of you are different and yet all of you are the same.  All of you operate on the same circle of sexual identity.  At any given time, any of you move on the circle depending on what you need in your life.  Each of you is born with a destiny and each of you is born with a genetic code that helps guide your sexuality.  It is inaccurate to imagine that others will express themselves in ways that are similar to you or that others will feel the same ways that you do.  The only thing that is accurate in this regard is to operate as if everyone is different and everyone is good.   As long as each of you is in alignment with your highest good, then all of you are perfectly fine just as you are.   

What does being gay have to do with reproduction?

Let us begin through the lens of science - sexual reproduction and nonsexual reproduction is a relationship that is based on choice.  The answer is the same in regard to the relationship to homosexuality and to infertility.  The whole process of human reproduction and sexual reproduction has evolved as an expression of duality or polarity.  As many of you know, this world is based on or has been based on duality.  Duality is made possible by creating everything with an opposite in this world.  You have given yourselves endless opportunities to explore existence through duality, which give you limitation.  When you imagine that everything has an opposite, you therefore must accept the idea that everything is limited without its opposite -- that every half is missing its other half.  The concept of duality, taken from the perspective of the universe, is fascinating.  If you consider the idea that each of you as a soul is completely whole, completely both male and female, then the idea of squeezing yourselves into human form and forgetting who you really are and then imagining that you are missing something and you have to find your other half – well, it is very interesting!  The evolution of sexual reproduction offered a further expression of this experience of duality.  Not only for humans but for all creatures who employ it. 

The evolution of humanity is bringing you to live outside of the illusion of duality.  You are coming to see the world as whole, to see the potential for everything in everything else -- to see the potential of an entire universe in a grain of sand, as your religions have described.  As you come to perceive that everything is connected, that everything is whole in and of itself and yet everything fits together in harmony, your attachment to sexual reproduction becomes diminished.  Where it was once a mysterious miracle for two halves to join and make a new whole, the miracle now lies in the immensity of love that leads one to make the choice to bring a new being into the world, regardless of what avenue that takes. 

This process of evolution is occurring regardless of hetero- or homosexuality; this process has been occurring as you have come to “control” the reproductive experience.  The rise of infertility rates, the rise in adoptions, and the increased ability for people to prevent pregnancy – all these and more lead you to reproduction being based on choice.  These changes highlight the fact that, while physical reproduction still functions through the uniting of an egg and a sperm, the reproductive act is actually the choice to bring new human beings into the family of humanity.  You are experiencing reproduction not singularly as a result of sexual union, but as a result of choice.  When you choose to have a child, understanding the tools given to you by sexual reproduction, you create a child using those tools. 

In this way, the relationship between homosexuality and reproduction is the same relationship that lies between infertility and reproduction.  It is part of the evolution of human beings to step beyond duality and step into creation as a matter of choice.